12 Rules For Monk Mode #5: Play By The Rules

This is the fifth of a 12-part series remixing Jordan Peterson’s book 12 Rules For Lifeone chapter a week to coincide with the 12 weeks remaining for my one year celibacy vow.


We can argue all we like, but the fact is we have new rules in our society.

Why else did we go MGTOW? The legal rules in divorce and family court made it too risky to get married, and the new social rules of #MeToo make it too risky to date.

As we know, there is a section of us that are still in the Red Pill Rage, and frequent these circles that continuously churn out content related to the various ways we are degrading as a society, especially pertaining to the behavior of women. But returning to the scene of the crime isn’t going to help you heal.

“It is the things that occur every single day that truly make up our lives, and time spent the same way over and again adds up at an alarming rate…

No matter how good your intentions, or how sweet and tolerant your temperament, you will not maintain good relations with someone you fight with for a month and half of work weeks per year. Resentment will inevitably build.

Even if it doesn’t, all that wasted, unpleasant time could clearly be spent in more productive and useful and less stressful and more enjoyable activity.

p. 117, 118

We need to start seeing our lives more holistically, through the theme of compound interest. Every day is just a single brick to build the castle walls that will one day become the headquarters of your empire. Every day won’t be easy; some will feel like pennies, others like a dollar. But as long as you stay focused on building momentum, you will steadily see growth in positive directions.

The issue at hand, of course, is the lack of emotional support on dealing with the discontent within the “rage” phase. Men just don’t have the same emotional release ability that women do. As much as feminists want to believe it is due to toxic masculinity, the presence of testosterone makes it extremely difficult to physically expel those difficult emotions through therapeutic discussion and/or crying.

As men, we need to find a better outlet.

I’m not even willing to admit that I’ve gotten over the rage phase. I am simply choosing to ignore it by going Monk Mode. I know for certain that nothing positive will come about from my participation in the circles I mentioned earlier, but something of worth can be achieved if I instead seek within.

Today’s episode is about how we have actually gained much more than we have lost by going MGTOW Monk Mode.

“We assume that rules will irremediably inhibit what would otherwise be the boundless and intrinsic creativity of our children, even though the scientific literature clearly indicates, first, that creativity beyond the trivial is shockingly rare and, second, that strict limitations facilitate rather than inhibit creative achievement.”

p. 124

People view the lives of celibates, ascetics, and minimalists as ones with strict limitations, but what if those are the groups of people that are able to express and collect the most experience out of life?

Most people are slaves to their food and sex drives, and so fasting and abstinence are actually practices of freedom. Likewise, “the things you own end up owning you”, and so we put a limit on our possessions too through minimalism, so that we may move more freely.

“Discipline is freedom”, after all.

Not only am I on a one year celibacy vow, but I am also practicing No Fap, and so far I have gone six months without consuming any porn. However, the urge to relapse has been very strong lately.

But every day that I struggle with it, I continue to search deeper about where those feelings are coming from, and why? Is it loneliness, or lack of self expression? Equally I also ask myself why I should continue with these limitations, but then I look back on all the time spent on this experiment, and how putting a hard cap on my sexual exploration has allowed it to express itself in other ways.

Firstly, it was interesting to see myself seek out romance through watching anime, which I discussed in an earlier post: 1 Year Celibacy Update – 98 Days Remaining

A failure to properly sublimate my dissatisfaction and desires led me to engaging in escapism.

After the Yoko incident, I chose more wholesome anime, but still consumed it for a slightly similar reason. Over the last month, I have binge watched around 300 episodes of Naruto, with the urgency stemming from wanting to get to the end of the series and the start of its sequel, Boruto, as the romance between the main character and a love interest is finally resolved with them marrying and having children.

I was not interested in watching the filler episodes this time, but the only ones I would have sat through were the ones with Naurto and Hinata, so I actually searched YouTube for a compilation of all their exchanges so I wouldn’t miss out on anything. One of the YouTube comments said “I wish Hinata was real.”, and I really resonated with that, I must admit.

Yeah, I made it to Boruto now, by the way. I finally became proficient enough at my job to watch episodes alongside it, and was able to put in some 9+ hour work days to finish up Shippuden and get to the wedding. Last night, I actually dreamed that I went on two dates with Hinata.

But alas, this is just one observation.

I’ve been drafting a lot of creative content recently, not like these blog posts, but music, lyrics, novels, and even video game ideas.

What was most interesting as well was that my most recent idea for a novel had mature sexual themes in it, which is obviously a direct expression of my sexual emotions, but of course redirected in a more creative way, rather than all that energy being expended into the void through consuming porn and masturbating.

This experience has taught me that when we choose to go Monk Mode, we must take time to reflect on our progress and ascertain what we have gained through our experiments, as opposed to a mourning of our non-participation within the mainstream.

So many men are treating the difficulties in dating and marriage these days as such a tragedy, but what if it’s a blessing in disguise?

Play By The Rules

Each person’s private trouble cannot be solved by a social revolution, because revolutions are destabilizing and dangerous. We have learned to live together and organize our complex societies slowly and incrementally, over vast stretches of time, and we do not understand with sufficient exactitude why what we are doing works. Thus, altering our ways carelessly in the name of some ideological shibboleth is likely to produce far more trouble than good, given the suffering that even small revolutions generally produce.”

pp. 119

There’s a running fantasy within MGTOW for more men to become red-pilled and completely opt out of the system as a protest in order to restore society. Simps and spinsters get pies in their face, and declines in marriage rates and the closing of bridal shops receives applause. What was first an underground hideout for men seeking self-preservation has now, in some spaces, become a headquarters for a quiet social revolution.

What is ironic, though, is that the quote above is actually targeted at the more liberal groups pushing for far more social change through feminism and other diversity affairs. But I am opposed to both sides, however, as I stated in the previous episode, as I see conservatism (not politically, but culturally) decreasing, which I symbolized as ice melting, and instead of trying to freeze it back, we must see the future and know that water eventually evaporates, and then re-forms into ice much later.

A great practice in Stoicism is learning what is within our control, and foregoing all the things that aren’t is essentially the theme of Episode 3: Only Seek Your Power. However, this episode will differ slightly, as it is more about seeing worth (gratitude) in the very circumstances we struggle against.

Crisis and Opportunity

The Chinese characters for “crisis” are commonly interpreted in the West as a cross between “danger” and “opportunity.” This is particularly why I see futility in engorging ourselves in social change in modern times, as there’s always some other group that is benefiting (seeing “opportunity”) from whatever scenario you have labelled as “danger”.

For instance, the Pick-up Artists have benefited greatly from the sexual liberation of women through feminism, but more conservative men have obviously been bit by the bullet at the other end.

I don’t necessarily want men to become less conservative, but if your society has become so, I absolutely do not want them to swim against the tide, or yell at the sky. At this point, common advice to men who still desire the family life is to completely abandon America altogether, and marry abroad, (with strong emphasis on staying abroad as well).

“The evidence strongly suggests that human beings have become more peaceful, rather than less so, as time has progressed and societies became larger and more organized.

The !Kung bushmen of Africa…had a yearly murder rate of 40 per 100,00, which declined by more than 30% once they became subject to state authority. This is a very instructive example of complex social structures serving to reduce, not exacerbate, the violent tendencies of human beings.”

p. 121

Feminism can be said to be a consequence of peace and prosperity, and likewise, we could also be in the middle of the “good times create weak men/weak men create hard times” portion of the cycle. (If you’ve never heard of this, subsequently, hard times will create strong men, and strong men create good times.)

But we should step back and realize that we all benefit from this period of prosperity, even if it is degrading us culturally. The amount of wars in the world has been decreasing, and if I wasn’t so academically capable (and didn’t mind cutting my hair), I would have joined the military a long time ago to escape my circumstances. The military is more likely a safer career than a police officer these days.

When the world around us becomes too difficult, we should immediately stop seeking outward and only seek inward for our expression of power. But when we become strong enough to look externally again, we should cease in only seeing the danger, and instead always seek out the opportunities.

This also has nothing to do with optimism or positive thinking; it’s just about not allowing the perfect to be the enemy of the good. Of course, society can be improved. Everything can be improved, and to seek that is to be a living human, constantly in motion. But someone somewhere actually thinks things are good enough, or that this situation is even better. You may not be seeing the full picture, and you could use more objectivity as well.

So what is playing by the rules, exactly?

Simple. Stop trying to change society. Don’t change the rules of the game, externally. If you want to keep the rules you play by, simply change where you play.

“It’s also not for the best that all human corruption is uncritically laid at society’s feet. That conclusion merely displaces the problem, back in time. It explains nothing, and solves no problems. If society is corrupt, but not the individuals within it, then where did the corruption originate? How is it propagated? It’s a one-sided, deeply ideological theory.”

p. 118

I absolutely do not agree with America’s level of debt. But the citizens are in debt too, especially women, who hold the majority of the student loan debt in the country. Colttaine, near the end of his Matrix Behind The Matrix video believes that the bankers are never going to let that money walk, but there’s nothing stopping the majority of the voting base (women) from seeking out a way to socialize that debt, especially with the infinite printing press that is the Federal Reserve.

As someone with a 767 credit score, I think the country is absolutely rotten just for this respect only. But nonetheless, America is still the last institution expected to fall, and has only had it’s credit rating fall to an AA- since 2012, and at least before the Corona Virus fiasco.

Am I going to protest? Not at all. I’m going to continue to pay my taxes and be a good citizen (with my dollars at least, my cryptocurrency doesn’t exist), but I still definitely see “danger” here, as I don’t want to be around for when it’s finally time to tighten our belts, and so I’m simply going to quietly change MY game. I will ghost in plain sight, but secretly work on my exit strategy. I can find more fiscally responsible countries, or I can start to acquire more real assets, like land and self-sufficiency, and rely less on fiat currency.


The world is such a big place with endless opportunities, and so I am becoming deeply suspicious on why we hold such strong attachments to certain things, especially as MGTOW, that we feel we must lament it’s loss and fight to restore it.

Conservatism, by definition, is not creative. Once again, I do not have an issue with Conservatism itself, but only when one desires it when the rules have clearly changed. If you are Red Pill and you are like this, you are in the rage phase. If you are blue pill and you are like this, you will probably get divorced or #MeToo’d.

Now has it become clear?

Playing by the rules is just Stoicism and non-attachment. However, you can also benefit from the crisis if you play along and beat them at their own game. TFM has repeated that trans activists have done more for men’s rights than the actual Men’s Rights Movement, and TFM himself identifies as a “masculine presenting trans-gendered lesbian”, and encourages others to do so with a legal gender change, as there have been several success stories of men saving their jobs and even their financial aid for school by just changing that one letter on their ID card.

If we live in Clown World, and you’re not a clown, then the joke is on you.

Jordan Peterson explained quite well that despite how much children rebel against structure, it is actually good for them, as regulated meal and sleeping times prevents them from becoming irritable, and a lack of discipline from the parent leads the children to become frustrated and angry all the time, especially out in public.

So rules are good for us, but the best rules we can play by are the ones we apply to ourselves. After all, you don’t have to be MGTOW and red pilled. But you keep choosing the lifestyle for a reason, and it’s probably because you recognize, maybe not even consciously, that some rules, some limitations, actually allow you to grow.

For example, you may have realized, despite your tantrums, that cutting out women from your life has saved you time and money that allows you to now more seriously pursue your hobbies or career.

So, play by the strictest rules of all, and go Monk Mode, and see how far the roots and branches of the Tree of Life can truly grow.

Meditate on these matters.

And I will not see you on the Far Side, but next week Sunday at 12PM, every week for the rest of this series.

Thank you for reading. – Monk Moon Base

““No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” ― Carl Jung”

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12 Rules for Monk Mode #2: Walk The Narrow Way

This is the second of a 12-part series remixing Jordan Peterson’s book 12 Rules For Life, one chapter a week to coincide with the 12 weeks remaining for my one year celibacy vow.

In the previous episode of this series, we detached from the pursuit of women using the Taoist Order & Chaos dynamic, as men being the masculine Order trying to control the feminine Chaos is wasteful, as Chaos has a natural potential to select itself into Order.

This episode will be applying the same dynamic to the whole of society.

Too Little Order

“Order is the stability of your marriage. It’s buttressed by the traditions of the past and by your expectations — grounded, often invisibly, in those traditions. Chaos is that stability crumbling under your feet when you discover your partner’s infidelity. Chaos is the experience of reeling unbound and unsupported through space when your guiding routines and traditions collapse.”

p. 37

Tradition, and expectation.

That is, in it’s simplest form, what society is surviving on. Believe it or not, without gold to back up the currency, tradition and expectation is also what’s behind the strength and trading of the US Dollar.

This same invisible quality is what sold you onto the Blue Pill idea. And what’s even more powerful about it is that it works in two ways: even if traditions are broken, the whole system could still survive solely on expectation.

So when it all falls apart, for sure this time, we deny it, try to bargain with it, curse at it, hide from it, and a few of us even die from it.

In the same way that us men have forgotten our instincts to not seek out Chaos (pursue women) but instead focus solely on expanding our own Order (which attracts them anyway), modern comfort has also led us to lose our place in society, forgetting that civilization is not one big umbrella Order protecting us, but that it is comprised of a multitude of tiny units of Order working together.

It’s a time when we should purposefully miss the forest and focus on our own tree. Otherwise, devastating effects will occur when a man who has forgotten his own sense of masculine Order suddenly finds himself within Chaos, “reeling unbound and unsupported” as the “traditions and expectations” he had for society have fallen through.

The high rates of male suicide are a prime example for this.

Too Much Order

“Order is the place where the behavior of the world matches our expectations and our desires; the place where all things turn out the way we want them to. But order is sometimes tyranny and stultification, as well, when the demand for certainty and uniformity and purity becomes too one-sided.”

p. 36

In Alice in Wonderland, after getting through the rabbit hole, Alice drinks a bottle that ends up turning her very small. The same happens to the men I described above after taking the red pill, in which they eventually feel small and fall into depression.

But in Wonderland, a few moments later, Alice ate from a cake that then made her too large, resulting in her crying so much that when she returned to her normal size, she was able to swim in her own tears. This too happens to Red Pill men during the anger phase of the grief cycle, or better known in this context as The “Red Pill Rage”.

A common criticism of MGTOW is that for a group of men supposedly detached from women, they talk an awful lot about them, and it’s true. But there’s also talk about other men (Simps), and my favorite giveaway for someone still attached to the Order of the system: “degeneracy.”

MGTOW was supposed to be the last place I would expect to see lamentations of such a thing, but the space has also become a meeting ground for disenfranchised traditional conservatives to vent their rage.

It is supposed to be your own way, which I would expect to be very narrow. But how wide does your way become when it concerns the behavior of Thots, Simps, and degenerates who are apparently beneath you? And yet, you do not notice that you still depend and interact with them.

Your taxes are going to Tyrone’s baby mama. The Simp is delivering your Amazon package. The degenerate bags your groceries.


So no, you are not going your own way. You just want things to go your way.

The first group of men that could not overcome the depression/”valley of suicide” phase suffered from a lack of internal Order, making them small, along with the loss of external Order that was previously directing them from society above. The second group of men in the rage phase have some internal Order, making them large, but still suffering from the same loss of external Order, and they spend their time swimming in their own tears.

If society has descended into Chaos, then you are out of place attempting to restore Order to it. If instead society is still somewhat orderly, but not to the quality you desire, you are applying Order onto Order, which develops into tyranny.

Order can not be restored, it is simply maintained. Chaos can not be controlled, it is simply allowed to fall in line.

Observe how liberal cities like California and New York are losing growth, and people (especially from the former) are fleeing to places like Texas, which is ironic, since Texas is notorious for its Conservatism (aka, its Order). This is Chaos falling in line.

The Narrow Way

“The Taoist juxtaposition of yin and yang, for example, doesn’t simply portray chaos and order as the fundamental elements of Being — it also tells you how to act. The Way, the Taoist path of life, is represented by (or exists on) the border between the twin serpents. The Way is the path of proper Being. It’s the Way as that referred to by Christ in John 14:6: I am the way, and the truth and the life. The same idea is expressed in Matthew 7:14: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leads unto life, and few there be that find it.

p. 43

The Red Pill is simply knowledge (truth), but MGTOW is the way and the life, with Monk Mode being the narrow way that very few find.

Consider how actual Monks live in temples and monasteries away from society. Even if they reside in society, like a Church priest, the way they live their lives is so narrow, it’s almost impossible for mainstream society to recognize them as regular participants or common citizens.

It is true what Aristotle has said:

“Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual. Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god. ”

Monks are miniature Gods among us.

We in the mainstream over-consume on food, sex, and comfort, while the Monks have made a lifestyle of fasting, and abstinence. Some don’t even sleep on beds. Yet in our excess the depth of these alternatives slip our notice.

This is likely due to the Monastic habit of not imposing on society. They simply live the Narrow Way, and maintain their Order.

Heaven and Hell

“And even if we had defeated all the snakes that beset us from without, reptilian and human alike, we would still not have been safe. Nor are we now. We have seen the enemy, after all, and he is us. The snake inhabits each of our souls.”

p. 46

We can shame the Simps, trash the Thots, fight Feminism, end the welfare state, heck, even take women’s rights away. All of this could indeed bring our society progress, but this would not be going our own way, but whatever way the wind is blowing in society while we try to direct its course.

This is also too wide of a way because when the Order we are mourning in society is finally restored, it’s possible the previous way you were going will dissolve. We would have just been a fair-weather MGTOW, or a MGTOW in protest.

Which of course, at its heart, is not necessarily a bad thing. I myself am not teaching men to be adverse to women, marriage, children, or society. If any of these things are in your heart, I truly want you to be able to obtain them. But if you are just a MGTOW in protest, I must ask you, do you want you to become new, to become better, or return to the same?

“Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care with yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination and articulate your Being…

You could help direct the world, on its careening trajectory, a bit more toward Heaven and a bit more away from Hell. Once having understood Hell, researched it, so to speak– particularly your own individual Hell— you could decide against going there or creating that. You could aim elsewhere. You could, in fact devote your life to this. That would give you a Meaning, with a capital M. That would justify your miserable existence.”

pp. 63-64

The Red Pill was supposed to be a tool, an asset. But to become a MGTOW in protest, or any form of MRA, is to admit that the Red Pill has actually placed you into hell, which I will reiterate, is not a bad thing. You are attempting to return the world more towards your idea of Heaven, and I am probably on your side.

But I need you to seek further within yourself first; to go deeper into Hell. We are still only mildly among the flames, otherwise, we would not be comfortably barking about these other troubles. But if we were to truly commit to Monk Mode, to silence the world to see through to the very core of our suffering, I guarantee the men we would become would be far more silent, either from peace or determination, for all would wish for the way out of hell to be more narrow rather than wide.

“Take pain, for example–subjective pain. That’s something so real no argument can stand against it. Everyone acts as if their pain is real–ultimately, finally real. Pain matters, more than matter matters. It is for this reason, I believe that so many of the world’s traditions regards the suffering attendant upon existence as the irreducible truth of Being.”

p.35

Living Inside-Out

“Perhaps Heaven is something you must build, and immortality something you must earn.”

p.54

If Heaven must be built, then Monk Mode is simply the demolition to clear for its foundation.

Food. Sex. Comfort. This is what the Monastic Monks sacrifice to get into Heaven. What will it be for you?

You could start a strict diet or fasting routine. Take a temporary vow of celibacy, and abstain from porn and orgasm for a while. You could cut out movies and television. Take cold showers every morning.

These can all work, as it will be very difficult for you to care about the latest feminist outrage when all you want is a simple cup of ice water during a dry fast, but still these are only on the surface.

To find out what you really need to be free, identify everything that you feel has been or can be taken from you, especially after the Red Pill, and then freely give it all away.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and abstinence makes the fires of your individual Hell much hotter.

Hear the screams of your heart, and endure them alone.

Persevere through the pain, and then pursue more pain.

Do not be satisfied with the first answer, or the fifth answer, or the fiftieth answer. Continue to pursue the truth until your life becomes a singular point. Until the way goes from wide to narrow.

Chaos is also the formless potential from which the God of Genesis I called forth order using language at the beginning of time. It’s the same potential from which we, made in that Image, call forth the novel and ever-changing moments of our lives. And Chaos is freedom, dreadful freedom , too.”‘

p. 36

Why do you figure that mediation, a practice meant for the mind, requires stillness from the body? It is because the body is orderly, so much so that most of its processes can function without our control. We can breathe unconsciously. But the mind, however, is constantly racing, making it the Chaos, the “formless potential.”

So when we take the few limbs of the body we are responsible for and keep them still, over time, the Chaos of the mind also settles, as it follows the stillness established by the body. It was the mind, however, that instructed the body to be still in the first place.

In that same respect, there was a Chaos within your life that led you to discovering the Red Pill and later choosing to go MGTOW in an effort to re-order your life.

So, that is why we must walk the narrow Way, to find the absolute Order within us that provides the focus, clarity, and stillness that will govern our entire lives.

The Blue Pill was everything outside of us. It never cared about what we felt on the inside at any point along the way. Don’t complain, just follow the trajectory: Get married, buy a house, have kids. It was the perfect formula.

It was orderly. Too orderly.

So it’s no surprise to me that Chaos, the feminine, would rise up to disturb that Order. It wanted “freedom, dreadful freedom.” This Chaos destroyed your external Order, leaving you with internal Chaos. But just as Order became Chaos, through MGTOW Monk Mode, your internal Chaos will manifest into internal Order.

The break-up, the divorce, losing custody, it all left you alone. But you should be thankful, because alone was all that you ever really needed. The Chaos taught you that you can no longer rely on the external, and forced you to seek from within.

So will you take the challenge? Will you tame the Chaos inside of you instead of seeking to curb the Chaos of others? Will you no longer rely on external Order and simply expand the Order within you?

Are you willing to live on the inside-out, seeking only your truest genuine expression, and not from the outside-in, wanting to be fulfilled by tradition and expectation?

“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.” – Miyamoto Musashi

The Book of Five Rings

Meditate on these matters.

And I will not see you on the Far Side, but next week Sunday at 12PM, every week for the rest of this series.

Thank you for reading. – Monk Moon Base

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