12 Rules For Monk Mode #5: Play By The Rules

This is the fifth of a 12-part series remixing Jordan Peterson’s book 12 Rules For Lifeone chapter a week to coincide with the 12 weeks remaining for my one year celibacy vow.


We can argue all we like, but the fact is we have new rules in our society.

Why else did we go MGTOW? The legal rules in divorce and family court made it too risky to get married, and the new social rules of #MeToo make it too risky to date.

As we know, there is a section of us that are still in the Red Pill Rage, and frequent these circles that continuously churn out content related to the various ways we are degrading as a society, especially pertaining to the behavior of women. But returning to the scene of the crime isn’t going to help you heal.

“It is the things that occur every single day that truly make up our lives, and time spent the same way over and again adds up at an alarming rate…

No matter how good your intentions, or how sweet and tolerant your temperament, you will not maintain good relations with someone you fight with for a month and half of work weeks per year. Resentment will inevitably build.

Even if it doesn’t, all that wasted, unpleasant time could clearly be spent in more productive and useful and less stressful and more enjoyable activity.

p. 117, 118

We need to start seeing our lives more holistically, through the theme of compound interest. Every day is just a single brick to build the castle walls that will one day become the headquarters of your empire. Every day won’t be easy; some will feel like pennies, others like a dollar. But as long as you stay focused on building momentum, you will steadily see growth in positive directions.

The issue at hand, of course, is the lack of emotional support on dealing with the discontent within the “rage” phase. Men just don’t have the same emotional release ability that women do. As much as feminists want to believe it is due to toxic masculinity, the presence of testosterone makes it extremely difficult to physically expel those difficult emotions through therapeutic discussion and/or crying.

As men, we need to find a better outlet.

I’m not even willing to admit that I’ve gotten over the rage phase. I am simply choosing to ignore it by going Monk Mode. I know for certain that nothing positive will come about from my participation in the circles I mentioned earlier, but something of worth can be achieved if I instead seek within.

Today’s episode is about how we have actually gained much more than we have lost by going MGTOW Monk Mode.

“We assume that rules will irremediably inhibit what would otherwise be the boundless and intrinsic creativity of our children, even though the scientific literature clearly indicates, first, that creativity beyond the trivial is shockingly rare and, second, that strict limitations facilitate rather than inhibit creative achievement.”

p. 124

People view the lives of celibates, ascetics, and minimalists as ones with strict limitations, but what if those are the groups of people that are able to express and collect the most experience out of life?

Most people are slaves to their food and sex drives, and so fasting and abstinence are actually practices of freedom. Likewise, “the things you own end up owning you”, and so we put a limit on our possessions too through minimalism, so that we may move more freely.

“Discipline is freedom”, after all.

Not only am I on a one year celibacy vow, but I am also practicing No Fap, and so far I have gone six months without consuming any porn. However, the urge to relapse has been very strong lately.

But every day that I struggle with it, I continue to search deeper about where those feelings are coming from, and why? Is it loneliness, or lack of self expression? Equally I also ask myself why I should continue with these limitations, but then I look back on all the time spent on this experiment, and how putting a hard cap on my sexual exploration has allowed it to express itself in other ways.

Firstly, it was interesting to see myself seek out romance through watching anime, which I discussed in an earlier post: 1 Year Celibacy Update – 98 Days Remaining

A failure to properly sublimate my dissatisfaction and desires led me to engaging in escapism.

After the Yoko incident, I chose more wholesome anime, but still consumed it for a slightly similar reason. Over the last month, I have binge watched around 300 episodes of Naruto, with the urgency stemming from wanting to get to the end of the series and the start of its sequel, Boruto, as the romance between the main character and a love interest is finally resolved with them marrying and having children.

I was not interested in watching the filler episodes this time, but the only ones I would have sat through were the ones with Naurto and Hinata, so I actually searched YouTube for a compilation of all their exchanges so I wouldn’t miss out on anything. One of the YouTube comments said “I wish Hinata was real.”, and I really resonated with that, I must admit.

Yeah, I made it to Boruto now, by the way. I finally became proficient enough at my job to watch episodes alongside it, and was able to put in some 9+ hour work days to finish up Shippuden and get to the wedding. Last night, I actually dreamed that I went on two dates with Hinata.

But alas, this is just one observation.

I’ve been drafting a lot of creative content recently, not like these blog posts, but music, lyrics, novels, and even video game ideas.

What was most interesting as well was that my most recent idea for a novel had mature sexual themes in it, which is obviously a direct expression of my sexual emotions, but of course redirected in a more creative way, rather than all that energy being expended into the void through consuming porn and masturbating.

This experience has taught me that when we choose to go Monk Mode, we must take time to reflect on our progress and ascertain what we have gained through our experiments, as opposed to a mourning of our non-participation within the mainstream.

So many men are treating the difficulties in dating and marriage these days as such a tragedy, but what if it’s a blessing in disguise?

Play By The Rules

Each person’s private trouble cannot be solved by a social revolution, because revolutions are destabilizing and dangerous. We have learned to live together and organize our complex societies slowly and incrementally, over vast stretches of time, and we do not understand with sufficient exactitude why what we are doing works. Thus, altering our ways carelessly in the name of some ideological shibboleth is likely to produce far more trouble than good, given the suffering that even small revolutions generally produce.”

pp. 119

There’s a running fantasy within MGTOW for more men to become red-pilled and completely opt out of the system as a protest in order to restore society. Simps and spinsters get pies in their face, and declines in marriage rates and the closing of bridal shops receives applause. What was first an underground hideout for men seeking self-preservation has now, in some spaces, become a headquarters for a quiet social revolution.

What is ironic, though, is that the quote above is actually targeted at the more liberal groups pushing for far more social change through feminism and other diversity affairs. But I am opposed to both sides, however, as I stated in the previous episode, as I see conservatism (not politically, but culturally) decreasing, which I symbolized as ice melting, and instead of trying to freeze it back, we must see the future and know that water eventually evaporates, and then re-forms into ice much later.

A great practice in Stoicism is learning what is within our control, and foregoing all the things that aren’t is essentially the theme of Episode 3: Only Seek Your Power. However, this episode will differ slightly, as it is more about seeing worth (gratitude) in the very circumstances we struggle against.

Crisis and Opportunity

The Chinese characters for “crisis” are commonly interpreted in the West as a cross between “danger” and “opportunity.” This is particularly why I see futility in engorging ourselves in social change in modern times, as there’s always some other group that is benefiting (seeing “opportunity”) from whatever scenario you have labelled as “danger”.

For instance, the Pick-up Artists have benefited greatly from the sexual liberation of women through feminism, but more conservative men have obviously been bit by the bullet at the other end.

I don’t necessarily want men to become less conservative, but if your society has become so, I absolutely do not want them to swim against the tide, or yell at the sky. At this point, common advice to men who still desire the family life is to completely abandon America altogether, and marry abroad, (with strong emphasis on staying abroad as well).

“The evidence strongly suggests that human beings have become more peaceful, rather than less so, as time has progressed and societies became larger and more organized.

The !Kung bushmen of Africa…had a yearly murder rate of 40 per 100,00, which declined by more than 30% once they became subject to state authority. This is a very instructive example of complex social structures serving to reduce, not exacerbate, the violent tendencies of human beings.”

p. 121

Feminism can be said to be a consequence of peace and prosperity, and likewise, we could also be in the middle of the “good times create weak men/weak men create hard times” portion of the cycle. (If you’ve never heard of this, subsequently, hard times will create strong men, and strong men create good times.)

But we should step back and realize that we all benefit from this period of prosperity, even if it is degrading us culturally. The amount of wars in the world has been decreasing, and if I wasn’t so academically capable (and didn’t mind cutting my hair), I would have joined the military a long time ago to escape my circumstances. The military is more likely a safer career than a police officer these days.

When the world around us becomes too difficult, we should immediately stop seeking outward and only seek inward for our expression of power. But when we become strong enough to look externally again, we should cease in only seeing the danger, and instead always seek out the opportunities.

This also has nothing to do with optimism or positive thinking; it’s just about not allowing the perfect to be the enemy of the good. Of course, society can be improved. Everything can be improved, and to seek that is to be a living human, constantly in motion. But someone somewhere actually thinks things are good enough, or that this situation is even better. You may not be seeing the full picture, and you could use more objectivity as well.

So what is playing by the rules, exactly?

Simple. Stop trying to change society. Don’t change the rules of the game, externally. If you want to keep the rules you play by, simply change where you play.

“It’s also not for the best that all human corruption is uncritically laid at society’s feet. That conclusion merely displaces the problem, back in time. It explains nothing, and solves no problems. If society is corrupt, but not the individuals within it, then where did the corruption originate? How is it propagated? It’s a one-sided, deeply ideological theory.”

p. 118

I absolutely do not agree with America’s level of debt. But the citizens are in debt too, especially women, who hold the majority of the student loan debt in the country. Colttaine, near the end of his Matrix Behind The Matrix video believes that the bankers are never going to let that money walk, but there’s nothing stopping the majority of the voting base (women) from seeking out a way to socialize that debt, especially with the infinite printing press that is the Federal Reserve.

As someone with a 767 credit score, I think the country is absolutely rotten just for this respect only. But nonetheless, America is still the last institution expected to fall, and has only had it’s credit rating fall to an AA- since 2012, and at least before the Corona Virus fiasco.

Am I going to protest? Not at all. I’m going to continue to pay my taxes and be a good citizen (with my dollars at least, my cryptocurrency doesn’t exist), but I still definitely see “danger” here, as I don’t want to be around for when it’s finally time to tighten our belts, and so I’m simply going to quietly change MY game. I will ghost in plain sight, but secretly work on my exit strategy. I can find more fiscally responsible countries, or I can start to acquire more real assets, like land and self-sufficiency, and rely less on fiat currency.


The world is such a big place with endless opportunities, and so I am becoming deeply suspicious on why we hold such strong attachments to certain things, especially as MGTOW, that we feel we must lament it’s loss and fight to restore it.

Conservatism, by definition, is not creative. Once again, I do not have an issue with Conservatism itself, but only when one desires it when the rules have clearly changed. If you are Red Pill and you are like this, you are in the rage phase. If you are blue pill and you are like this, you will probably get divorced or #MeToo’d.

Now has it become clear?

Playing by the rules is just Stoicism and non-attachment. However, you can also benefit from the crisis if you play along and beat them at their own game. TFM has repeated that trans activists have done more for men’s rights than the actual Men’s Rights Movement, and TFM himself identifies as a “masculine presenting trans-gendered lesbian”, and encourages others to do so with a legal gender change, as there have been several success stories of men saving their jobs and even their financial aid for school by just changing that one letter on their ID card.

If we live in Clown World, and you’re not a clown, then the joke is on you.

Jordan Peterson explained quite well that despite how much children rebel against structure, it is actually good for them, as regulated meal and sleeping times prevents them from becoming irritable, and a lack of discipline from the parent leads the children to become frustrated and angry all the time, especially out in public.

So rules are good for us, but the best rules we can play by are the ones we apply to ourselves. After all, you don’t have to be MGTOW and red pilled. But you keep choosing the lifestyle for a reason, and it’s probably because you recognize, maybe not even consciously, that some rules, some limitations, actually allow you to grow.

For example, you may have realized, despite your tantrums, that cutting out women from your life has saved you time and money that allows you to now more seriously pursue your hobbies or career.

So, play by the strictest rules of all, and go Monk Mode, and see how far the roots and branches of the Tree of Life can truly grow.

Meditate on these matters.

And I will not see you on the Far Side, but next week Sunday at 12PM, every week for the rest of this series.

Thank you for reading. – Monk Moon Base

““No tree, it is said, can grow to heaven unless its roots reach down to hell.” ― Carl Jung”

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Into The Depths of Desire – Dry Fasting + No Fap Hard Mode/Monk

This blog post was originally published on 3/24/20 on my website.

I’ve been Playing on the Hardest Difficulty on my diet and especially on No Fap, which I’ve recently hit a major check point on past the 30 day mark.

Technically, the last PMO was 79 days ago, but the reason why I’m highlighting this particular 34 day streak is because I completely cut out all intentional viewing of sexual imagery. Yes, that even includes avoiding Twitch thots and YouTube click bait.

Sandman is lucky I already followed his channel before all the sex propaganda he has in his videos now.

But the goal of all this isn’t to deny my sexuality. I haven’t taken any vows of celibacy. This is simply a fast from stimulating my sexual desire for a 90-day reboot.

I believe absence does make the heart grow fonder, and I want to know how strong my desire is, and if there truly is something deeper underneath it all.

We’re too overstimulated to know what we really want anymore. Any moment of silence and introspection is smothered each time we refresh the News Feed. Our mental diets are now dictated by the algorithm. We’re procrastinating from being assigned responsibility for our own lives.

Only when we are fasted and deprived can we truly know what’s meaningful and necessary. It’s the only way we can shed ourselves of everything that is artificial.

Of course when you first start fasting or dieting you will settle for any form of sustenance no matter its quality to return you back to your previously perceived equilibrium. But as you persevere, you gain focus and discipline. Former habits and temptations become trivial.

Practicing intentional control over food and sex is in fact a red pill.

I struggled for so long to get past 30 days on the Keto diet because I would miss the taste of my favorite junk foods, but the longer I practiced Keto, the more I realized I was only initiated by the years of good memories and neural pathways associated with the food, and derived less and less actual satisfaction from the foods themselves overtime. By now, with over six months of strict practice under my belt, I’m repulsed just by the smell of certain snacks I used to enjoy. I don’t even have to look at the labels to talk myself out of them anymore. Sugar and high-carb has become the Blue Pill.

I hope I can be able to say the same about porn, masturbation, and mainstream sex as well, but it’s just too soon to tell. In fact, suppressing my sexuality actually interfered with my diet, as I found myself overeating and consuming more entertainment media than usual just to hide from it.

I honestly would not recommend someone focusing on taming both their food and sex drives at once like I am, but like I said, the hardest difficulty encourages the most growth at the fastest rate.Play On The Hardest Difficulty – MGTOW, No Fap and Semen Retention

At first, I actually regretted working on both fasting and No Fap at the same time, but now I’m quite grateful, as I appreciate food a lot more now, making the roars of my sex drive more quiet these days.

“Food just passes through you, in the same way sex passes through you. It’s just a biological drive. However, the difference is that food is more of a necessity than sex. Without food you may die. But you can survive just fine without an orgasm.” – 30 Days of No-Fap – Road to Self-Mastery

The more disciplined I become in my control of sex, the less I need to hide from it. But with fewer activities left to pass the time and compensate, the closer I get to the core of things, and the root of my dissatisfaction and desire.


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Into The Depths of Desire

Throughout all these years, I never realized how deeply I retreated into porn to cover up or escape my emotions.

During this most recent No Fap streak, I believe I truly got to the root of my dissatisfaction with my life.

My earlier notes discussed this idea of a need for “relief“, which most likely refers to relief from the work and stress I’m going through trying to become debt-free and move out into my own apartment. However, my current income as well as the high rent prices in NYC make that very difficult.

So, to escape this, I obviously need to put in more hours at my day job, and invest in a side business such as this blog, for additional income and mobility. But with the amount of money that has to be saved and paid toward my debts, I can’t help but feel like I’m just spinning my wheels. I can only chase the carrot for so long without any reinforcement to keep going.

That’s why I’m willing to call myself an incel right now, because I do not have the time nor mental wherewithal to date, nor the money (if I’m being responsible) for an “express date” (escort).

So, essentially, I needed to come up with some scheme that would offer some incentive and satisfaction in the interim to keep the engine running at high efficiency until I get to my goal.

But to make matters worse, I was also experimenting with alternate day all-day dry fasting, which means I would have one day of regular feeding and the next day completely without food or water.

“Is There More To Life Than Just Food and Sex?”

Yes, there is.

As I laid there resting from my work, hungry, thirsty, and horny, I experienced real lethargy knowing I would not see any relief to any of my biological urges at this time, and that I had to power through my work for no other reason than it being the most logical thing to do.

I had finally reached the final form of all my training: I became a stoic machine that does only what is necessary. But without any sensory pleasures, life had become so bleak, even my greatest dissatisfaction from not being alone began to fade in the background.

I realized I needed a distraction if I aimed to continue with any more work. If I am a machine, then my battery must be passion, and I did not have enough passion towards my job or my main objective to power through this depleted and deprived state. The little bit of effort I already put in was enough.

If I knew there was a light at the end of the tunnel, I’d keep running through the darkness, but my work breaks were just time to rest my mind until getting back into more work. I had nothing to look forward to, and it made work even harder to get through.


I actually already answered in the article what it was exactly that was more in life than food and sex. It was Spirituality, Philosophy, Science, and Art.

I particularly relied on Art to get me through these food-and-sexless times, especially video games, and it’s actually quite incredible how heavily invested I can become in the hobby.

I almost teared up actually, when I was hit with nostalgia for Pokemon. After struggling for so long with porn addiction, I was so happy to know that I could still be enthralled by wholesome things like video-games and rediscovering my childhood.

I’ve been playing more video-games lately, which is why I published two stories related to Fallout 4 recently. I would power through my work harder than ever just to have enough spare time to play.


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Will I Remain In Monk Mode?

In one of my more profound early writings, Finding The Wall: Plateaued Productivity and Leaving Monk Mode, I meditated on productivity and what limits I would have to hit in order to consider leaving the state.

This experiment has enlightened me that to perform work I must have compensation and resources. Genuine work like creating art asks for very little in return, but my menial day job requires a lot of hand-holding. The monetary compensation is very low, the tasks are monotonous, but it offers me at-home comfort, so I’ve settled with it.

The paradox of desperation is that it motivates me to take action, but also adds stress that decreases my satisfaction.

My desperation to move out has been great, but not enough to consider sacrificing with more student loan debt or a normie job on the outside world. Therefore, I’m only pushing myself as hard as the proportion of satisfaction I’m getting in return.

Even if the horse chases harder initially to get the entire carrot, it will run out of incentive and energy eventually unless you feed it small pieces of carrot along the way.

That said, I have stripped my dopamine system down to its core so that just the pleasant thought of eating one of my simple meals with an episode of anime is enough to get me out of bed and straight to work in the morning. I can forget about sex completely if I can sublimate it with creative expression, and I’ve gamified my accounting to give every day of work more impact.

But maybe, at the back of my mind, I know things are only going this well because at the end of it all, I still desire the whole carrot. I know my gut will be healed one day and I can safely eat sugar again. All my debts will be paid off and I’ll have my own space. I’ll have more money and free time to date.

So, if I start running any faster, or my goal seems to be getting closer, it’s only because I’ve gotten hornier, and hungrier.

However, there is a notable portion of my desire dedicated to the fact that more time, space, and money will massively benefit my creative efforts. I could record so much more audio for my videos with an empty house, and could afford commissioning art work for my fictional works. But for now, the acquisition of sensory pleasures, along with our need to avoid pain, must be the basic formula for all human achievement.

But beware, my friends. If we dive any deeper than this, I think we will approach the surface of the soul.

See you on the Far Side… – Monk Moon Base

“Epicureanism argued that pleasure was the chief good in life. Hence, Epicurus advocated living in such a way as to derive the greatest amount of pleasure possible during one’s lifetime, yet doing so moderately in order to avoid the suffering incurred by overindulgence in such pleasure. Emphasis was placed on pleasures of the mind rather than on physical pleasures. Unnecessary and, especially, artificially produced desires were to be suppressed.” – Epicureanism Wikipedia


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Losing My Compass – Relapse, Desire and Dissatisfaction on No Fap

My No-Fap High Scores List

1st – 163 Days

2nd – 129 Days

3rd – 101 (latest)

The first draft of this story was difficult to write. After a relapse, I had no real sense or conclusion on the matter.

Moments after the relapse happened, I remember saying to myself “I don’t even know who you are anymore.”, which is a very profound statement considering I started this practice in the pursuit of self-knowledge.

“I think there is very little to be learned about yourself in the pursuit of sex. After all it is just a sensual pleasure.” – 30 Days of No-Fap: Road to Self -Mastery

I suppose it would be more meaningful now to flip this statement: What am I learning in the pursuit of non-sex?

Sex Is Always Going To Be There

An old strategy of mine was to deliberately feed into my urges with the intent that I could increase the intensity of my motivation for other habits if I also increased my sexual urges and then focused that energy to those other habits. A specific and frequent example for this was watching porn before working out.

This is quite the crude form of sex transmutation. It would work some of the time, but generally the risks aren’t worth it, and in the end it took more time to complete the desired action anyway because of the distracting sexual build up that had to be done beforehand.

The Power of Sex

I don’t want to remove my sex drive. According to Freud’s theory of sublimation, my sexual dissatisfaction could be the source for my strong drive for achievement as a means for compensation.

“My argument is not to abandon sex forever, but to simply curb it, to fast from it, only to recognize it has no true dominion over you.”Road to Self-Mastery

The context behind that statement was derived from observing the habits of sex-controlled men, with most of their paths leading to danger; #MeToo, financial divorce rape, and even physical harm for the single men frequenting red light districts.

Well, considering all that, masturbation and sex dolls actually seem like pretty great options.

But here’s my problem: I’ve taken the Red Pill.

I’ve learned about the health benefits of semen retention and Non-ejaculatory methods for sex, and I simply can not settle for these cheaper forms of pleasure anymore. I can not go back to the way I was before.

Losing My Compass

Yes, I know; real big talk from someone who relapsed anyway.

But 129 days is still nothing to scoff at. There are men out there that fap several times a day for years on end.

But what can easily happen with longer streaks like mine is a drop in standards and a loss for the fundamentals responsible for success in the first place.

I can tell you now, in the days leading up to my relapse, I had completely forgotten about Karezza. An act like that takes time, practice, and a committed partner; three things I don’t have the mental framework for in my current monk-mode environment.

And so, my reasons for doing No-Fap slowly got further and further away.

Reorientation

“A Saiyan gets stronger after every battle.” – Prince Vegeta

This relapse doesn’t have to be taken as a loss; none of them should be, ever. Do the logical thing: detach from the shame and disappointment and learn from the experience.

#1 Don’t Feed The Beast

As stated earlier, my sex drive is already powerful enough on it’s own; it doesn’t need any extra help. Engaging with it will only allow it to overcome my current focus, and I can’t afford that sort of distraction.

(Like Saruman told the Orcs in The Fellowship of The Ring: “We have work to do!”)

#2 Delayed Gratification

This has always been an issue since the start. Sex is too powerful, and is very difficult to delay through other means to only later intend to satisfy its end.

Obviously I want to have a moderate and responsible sex life, but I also don’t want to be in-between. If I’m going to do it, just go and do it. No more edging and teasing.

Every single part of my life deserves 100% of my attention and effort when it’s the right time for me to focus on it. So if I’ve decided I’m not going to have sex right now, then it’s not worth thinking about at all for the moment.

#3 Tracking Progress

As all this drama is going on with No-Fap, meanwhile, I’ve just made nine months of my Keto/Candida diet. The awesome thing about Health & Fitness is that the gains are very observable, and while the Candida isn’t completely gone yet, I’ve at least reached my weight loss goals and other health benefits.

As someone who was already actively decreasing my masturbation frequency before I even knew about No-Fap, these “superpowers” more chronic abusers experience after they begin this practice aren’t so apparent to me.

And even if I go even further with strict Semen Retention, Debonair D recommends a six-month minimum for complete realization. That’s a really long time for a very esoteric practice with no guarantees for what could be a possible placebo effect. And so, this leads me to my last point, wrapping it all up.

#4 An Everyday Perspective

Honestly, counting my streaks, and especially wanting to reach a certain month/day milestone is making a mountain out of this ordeal. It gets even worse when you have hit high streaks before, because the low-number days you need to build up again don’t have the same impact.

This entire recent streak, I was just looking forward to beating my high score, and everyday not having it wasn’t necessarily making me more likely to achieve it, as it also made me more frustrated that I’m not where I want to be.

Too much projecting into the future made me forget what No-Fap’s purpose is supposed to be for me as an everyday experience.

I want self-mastery. I never want to be in a situation where I am compelled by some external necessity, and I’ve identified sex to be in that category at the moment.

If I just metaphorically wave to my sex drive from across the street, letting it pass me by, I can save myself so much time and money to focus on more productive and beneficial life practices. I know about my sex drive already, but I don’t really know enough about my creative drives, my relationship with food, my full opinion on money, leisure, and luxury.

Once again, sex isn’t something that has to be abandoned forever. I don’t have to be a celibate monk, and even so there are responsible and spiritual ways to incorporate it into my life, like with Karezza, for example.

But what’s clear as day to me right now is that I made some interesting choices with my life prior to MGTOW, and I think the most responsible thing to do right now is to hard freeze on everything unnecessary (deep Monk Mode) and focus on clearing up the debts and damage from the past, and forge new roads and foundations for a more successful future.

I shouldn’t be afraid of this either; I really can’t tell if my Monk Mode will last forever and I become the next Nikola Tesla (I’ve voiced this concern in FINDING THE WALL: PLATEAUED PRODUCTIVITY AND LEAVING MONK MODE).

As a separate analogy, imagine you are advised not to move during meditation. But what if a particular discomfort makes it extremely difficult to quiet the mind as the entirety of your mind becomes focused on ignoring that one uncomfortable feeling?

129/101 days is freaking good, but if No-Fap starts to become a chore in itself and ends up having the reverse effect of distracting me from my main objectives, I have to consider the possibility that I won’t become a No-Fap Guru, and I’m simply just a jack-of-all-trades, and call it quits when the urges do get that strong.

I’m a highly creative individual, and I know from my past experiences that indulging in PMO starts out tame at first, but overtime it will certainly escalate.

But if I could start doing No-Fap Hardmode properly this time, and reset my baseline enough so that I can actually derive some satisfaction from PMO every four months or so, that actually seems like a pretty good deal!

So, I suppose the next challenge and interesting question is: How strong is my sex drive? Will ignoring it on No-Fap actually end up backfiring?

We’ll see. More content on the way.

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5 Tips for Starting and Surviving No Fap [100 Days Update]

I realized my previous No-Fap updates might have been too advanced, so I have reflected on these past 100 days to offer some useful advice for the No-Fap newbies out there, and a new perspective for current practitioners to reach new heights.

Tip #1: The Zenkai Boost

I’ve used this analogy before, but a lot of the improvements observed during No-Fap can be likened to the same process Saiyans undergo in Dragon Ball Z, in which their power level dramatically increases after they recover from near-fatal injuries.

I specifically identified the “Zenkai Boost” effect after noticing the gaps in frequency for my nocturnal emissions, as the longer I practiced No-Fap, the further away each one occurred from the last.

In the event that you do experience failure on your No-Fap journey, keep in mind that every failure is still valuable experience.

If you are constantly evaluating your progress along the way, you can identify what your triggers are so that you can better avoid them in the next round.

No-Fap is also not a completely mental exercise; you are also dragging along a very incessant body that needs realignment and repair.

#2: Count the Consecutive AND Cumulative Days on No-Fap

Acknowledging our streak counts is by far the most easily recognized habit within the No-Fap community. However, the way it is commonly approached can be harmful to the new practitioner.

Great comment by this guy on a very comedic NoFapper vs. Coomer video.

Those that reject No-Fap are always on day 0, so even though you may fail repeatedly to create a decent streak, you are at least making an effort, and every single moment of those efforts should be recognized.

Start counting your days from the day you decided you wanted to change, because there are so many out there that actively reject to change this habit.

It’s unfair to say that my “Day 0” after hitting 163 days (my high score) is the same “Day 0” as another man who has never made it past 3 days.

All of your experience matters. Count it all.

If you do it this way, even if you fail, you are still on the path and always growing.

#3: Slowly Deprogram (Don’t Go Cold Turkey)

It has never been enjoyable, nor strategically successful, to sternly stamp my foot down and refuse to repeat a certain behavior after previously over-indulging in it.

This especially happens with food, as I used to respond to relapses in my dieting habits with a full day of fasting (sometimes even dry fasting) either to punish myself or hard reset my neural pathways.

It’s absolutely miserable, as it doesn’t make me feel accomplished while doing it, and failing to abide by my own punishment just confirms that I have no control of myself.

Yes, as No-Fappers, we are addicted to porn, but I believe it’s wiser to slowly limit my consumption of it over a certain period of time, and eventually get bored of it (since there’s no orgasm release), as opposed to constantly fighting and struggling against my curiosity.

In fact, new No-Fappers should probably shoot for building up on smaller streaks in the beginning rather than trying to hit a 30 day or 90 day reboot on their first try.

It seems to be the healthiest way to achieve lasting results. With porn, I think it’s better to become desensitized, through boredom and sound logic, rather than overly sensitive, through strict avoidance and repression.

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#4 The Body Needs Discipline (This Stops Wet Dreams)

Isaac from Castlevania, meditating before his self-flagellation exercise

“The Body is sick. It must be purged. It must be focused. This is Holy work.” – Isaac from Castlevania (Netflix)

There are two schools of practice in No-Fap, and the divergence starts around the argument of whether or not a nocturnal emission affects your streak. Believing that it does is a likely path towards practicing full-on semen retention, but either way, a wet dream is not a fun event to go through.

Once again, there are two theories behind why it occurs in the first place.

The first theory is that your body does not yet have the mechanics for retention, neither the muscles nor the neuronal pathways, as it is adjusted to frequent ejaculation, so your body will attempt to expel semen when it is most vulnerable.

I remember a particular night after working out, I decided to skip my cold shower and go for a hot one before bed. I went to bed with a very strong fear that I was going to release at night during a dream, and not more than four hours later, I was disturbed by wildly sexual dreams, confirming my suspicion.

However, over time, my control of these dreams increased. At first, the ejaculations were almost instant, with little or no penetration at all. But as time went on, I was able to force them back, and eventually, not ejaculate at all during dream sex.

Which brings me to the second theory: A weak pelvic floor.

Debonair D has claimed that he has never experienced a wet dream, and he proposes that his natural defense is derived from his early adoption of frequent and heavy exercise, especially lower body workouts which relieve him of tension and pressure in the pelvic area, whereas other men who don’t exercise build up and unfortunately release this tension at night.

I also like to consider Yin/Yang and thermodynamic entropy as well. Having wet dreams is a symptom of the body having too much external heat (Yang energy). This is why I believe I released after my hot shower.

Therefore, incorporating more Yin practices (like meditation and cold showers) will invert the body’s heat and retain it. Making yourself colder will force the body to absorb the heat around you, as entropy is always attempting to achieve temperature uniformity.

#5 Constantly Ask Questions

“A question opens the mind. A statement closes the mind” – Robert Kiyosaki

The last piece of advice is a call back to an earlier article of mine, Two Questions To End Old Habits And Re-Organize Your Life

Structuring your life around bold statements does not seem to be a sustainable practice, and is probably why most New Year’s Resolutions fail after the first two months, or even sooner.

Although I have committed myself to one year of No-Fap and Keto diet training, I have not stated “I will do this for one year”, I have simply asked myself “What will happen if I do this for one year?”

We don’t know the future and we aren’t very good at even predicting our own behavior, so it’s important to keep our mindsets open and constantly gauge ourselves during our search for self-knowledge and wisdom.

If the urge to watch porn again comes up, you don’t have to be so adamantly against it, just simply ask a few questions.

What is the end goal of watching porn? It will most likely result in masturbation.

How does watching porn develop my character? I think it just makes me a person that watches porn.

What will I learn about myself? This one hurts. I don’t know! Is what I watch what I’m actually attracted to, or am I being programmed or manipulated into certain categories? However, I don’t think I’ll find the answer by watching more porn.

By asking questions, you make a graceful arrival to the logical conclusion, as opposed to the constant resistance of a definitive statement. It’s also a more mindful practice that introduces objective introspection rather than the ego investment that occurs through making declarations and promises to uphold or abstain from certain behaviors.

Don’t ever be afraid to not have an answer for your questions either. There is nothing wrong with an unsolved or open-ended question, as I believe just having the ability to ask it is enough proof of progress and demonstration of logic, and accepting the empty space is more likely to allow you to live in the present moment than believing every action needs to be explained.

“The only true wisdom is in knowing that you know nothing.” – Socrates

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Fasting and Abstinence Raises Your Baseline and Purifies Your Subconscious

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The significant gains acquired through my 62 days No Fap and 44 days Keto/OMAD/Candida fasting journey have not come without significant challenges.

Old memories of former habits and feelings have started resurfacing, as if some old neurons are checking in to see if I still need those unused dopamine receptors.

One day I suddenly and vividly remembered the frozen pizzas I bought only a few times from when I worked at a supermarket back then, which was the height of my binge eating career.

I don’t miss the chocolates and chips anymore, but I reminisced on next door’s Pizza Hut bread sticks, and the steak sandwiches from the delis in the area.

But these ghost memories aren’t only occurring with food; It’s happening with my love life too.

You know the type. It’s those feelings you get about the girl you fell in love with but thought you were over her because she’s bad for you and you fell in love with someone else after her, but now it’s clear as day that you were never over her.

Yikes.

But this is what I mean by Purifying The Subconscious, because the prolonged abstaining from sensory pleasures will grant me a face-to-face with my deeply retained or repressed desires.

It is then up to me to observe and allow them to pass as I ask myself, by the time I complete my training reaching a year on my streaks from now, will I still desire these things? Would the feelings fall away?

Would I have raised my baseline?

Raising My Baseline

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I reflected in my last health update that I had always crumbled right before the Day 30 mark during my past bouts on the Keto diet, and I was only able to succeed so well this time because I had redirected my off-menu urges with the much safer dark chocolate and almond butter option.

By the way, Health Tip: almonds are very high in oxalates, so eating them over repeated days was probably the source of my digestion issues.

But on average I don’t stray too far from my calorie limit and one meal setting anymore. I go through the same four day rotation of assorted veggies, fish, meat, or egg protein, and healthy fats in seeds, oils, coconut, and butter.

And as I begin to deprogram from sugar, I am also starting to drift away from standard sex.

I’ve come across a new sexual lifestyle called Karezza.

Many of it’s practitioners may also be invested in more spiritual endeavors (AKA something you would call “new age” or “woo woo”), but allow me to not be so esoteric and simply break down the typical ways we have sex today.

Average sex is still procreation focused sex. It is only because of the illusions brought on with the use of contraception that we falsely believe we have engineered recreational sex.

But this isn’t true. Truly, it is still quite juvenile for a man to release what he could very well use to start a family into an unceremonious latex bag. Likewise it is even worse for women, as they actively manipulate their hormones to prevent inception.

I have personally not yet practiced Karezza, but it appeals to me because I am very interested in semen retention, but I also know that common sex and orgasm is more of a release of tension rather than long-lasting and sustainable satisfaction.

At it’s worst, I have heard average sex dubbed as “female assisted ejaculation”, and I wholeheartedly agree with that description.

In short, Karezza is a non-orgasm focused sexual practice in which Oxytocin and other pleasure chemicals are maintained and multiplied through sustained sensuality without any of the crashing resulting from orgasm. It has especially been used to revitalize dead bedrooms in marriages, with repeated orgasms being the culprit of declining interest in long-term relationships, as told in Marnia Robinson’s book Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow (I have not read it yet, though).

More on this in the future, but to return to our point, I realized this new paradigm has raised my baseline when I compared these two sex practices while reflecting on my feelings for my old flame.

Despite her red flags, I would still be interested in standard procreation sex, as a means for closure (or just a really good hate-f–k).

But because of her red flags, I would not be interested in Karezza recreational sex with her because it is far too intimate, and she has negative energies that I do not want her to share or combine with me from her.

See the difference?

With both food and sex, I have refrained and practiced self-control, and it has now come to a point where I require a higher quality source to indulge in those behaviors.

Even if I wanted sugar again, I would much rather find a gourmet or home-baked option rather than the average store bought junk.

And now, my future sexual partners require the right energy, and will not used as my one-way need to get-off.

I am truly curious to see how much more my body will reveal its inner cravings, and what my baseline appetite will be after a year of this training program as I embark on this quest to know myself and develop my character.

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Finding The Wall: Plateaued Productivity and Leaving Monk Mode

I was afraid when I first started Monk Mode.

I was afraid that I would find toiling away in solitude more preferable to socializing in mainstream society, and that I would find some knowledge, whether about myself or about the world, that would never allow me to return to normal everyday relationships with friends, family, and lovers.

I still have that fear. But I’ve at least discovered now that there can be some limits to my productivity.


I have a stay-at-home job, which is quite conducive to my current status within Monk Mode.

I make my own schedule, and my quota is anywhere between 20-40 hours a week.

At first I tried the standard Mon-Fri, eight-hours-a-day system, but then I realized that no one actually works eight hours straight, because of the lunch breaks.

I also recalled that average workers usually spend their off-time recovering from the expense of drawn-out work days, so I decided to make every day identical but sustainable, and break up the 40 hours across the week.

This was a solid plan, until I hit the wall.

You see, my job actually has a physical limiter on it, as repetitive clicking while reviewing over 135+ items per hour, for several hours a day, will slowly chew away at the tendons between your fingers.

Surprisingly, I was quite relieved when this happened, because my conscientiousness previously would not allow me to dip under the maximum hours available without feeling guilty.

As for now, I can comfortably reach 25 hours a week, with breaks to prevent finger fatigue.


Of course, the other silver lining is that a space has opened up to work on my own personal projects: this blog! The Moon Base MGTOW Project!

However, I realize that suffering from a lack of work only led me to finding more work.

And so, my fear still remains.

Will there ever be a space where my work is not so highly prioritized, and I may potentially establish a stronger social life instead?

Will there ever be a point where I can just “settle down”?

I don’t know.

But I suppose the most moral and logical thing to do with my gifts is to fulfill them until I do reach that wall again: That point when the body goes tired. When the business stops growing. When the well runs dry.

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I now look to the man of former potential. How talented he was before his intensified pursuit of women.

Even after his out-of-wedlock child, his art still could have been salvaged.

After work, he could have come home to a single apartment, put his headphones on, and toiled away in his laboratory, only resting on the weekends to raise his child (his version of hitting the wall).

Instead, but still noble, he tried to build a studio at his church, but a flood destroyed his equipment.

Then, as he laid there purposeless and distracted, a woman entered the fray.

Marriage.

Every day now, she will occupy what could have been his great work space. And he will not mourn the lost art he never produced, fore the sensations of his body would validate to him that nothing more of worth can be accomplished now.

And this will last.

But only until he hits that wall.

Until he realizes that he has nothing to show for his life’s work except for what remains of his once youthful woman, and the hope that his child may live to outdo him.


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Is There More To Life? (Than Just Food and Sex)

“Is there more to life?” Is exactly what I asked myself, turning away from a very physically beautiful woman walking by me down the street.

What prompted this question was simply the sheer distraction I suffered from observing her, as my hormones locked in and generated the idea that being with a woman like her is the epitome of life.

And those hormones are 100% right.

After all, the end goal of such an interaction would literally result in more “life” (a baby).

But as a practitioner of fasting and meditation exercises, I’m not one to casually submit to my carnal desires on a whim. I should at least question them.

So, “Is there more to life?

I ask again.


A great few notable men have become quite famous for living their lives either in celibacy or with a keen control of their sexuality.

Various Monk Societies. Isaac Newton. Immanuel Kant. Nikola Tesla. Leonardo Da Vinci. Beethoven. Michelangelo. Aristotle. Freud...

Excelling in their respective fields of Spirituality, Philosophy, Science and Art.

Truthfully though, we do not have to be so esoteric.

The average human being is not living in a constant lower Id state prioritizing only the minimum sustenance required to persist in uninterrupted sexual and sensual activity.

Although those functions may have the strongest biological drives, as humans, we have still managed to develop more creative interests and pursuits that separate us further from the animals.

But if there is no biological drive to pursue those interests, why are we driven towards them?

What parts of our brain are being rewarded when we observe a satisfying piece of art? What drives us to study numbers? To study values? To look at the stars?

What happens to a man when he chooses to take a pause before his food, before his sex, and asks

“Is there more to life?”

What happens to the world?

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“The act of procreation and anything that has any relation to it is so disgusting that human beings would soon die out if there were no pretty faces and sensuous dispositions.”Leonardo Da Vinci

“If humans would control their sex desires and transmute them into a driving force with which to carry on their occupation—that is, if they spent on their work one half the time they dissipate in pursuit of sex, they would never know poverty”.Napoleon Hill, 1938.