This is the second of a 12-part series remixing Jordan Peterson’s book 12 Rules For Life, one chapter a week to coincide with the 12 weeks remaining for my one year celibacy vow.
In the previous episode of this series, we detached from the pursuit of women using the Taoist Order & Chaos dynamic, as men being the masculine Order trying to control the feminine Chaos is wasteful, as Chaos has a natural potential to select itself into Order.
This episode will be applying the same dynamic to the whole of society.
Too Little Order
“Order is the stability of your marriage. It’s buttressed by the traditions of the past and by your expectations — grounded, often invisibly, in those traditions. Chaos is that stability crumbling under your feet when you discover your partner’s infidelity. Chaos is the experience of reeling unbound and unsupported through space when your guiding routines and traditions collapse.”p. 37
Tradition, and expectation.
That is, in it’s simplest form, what society is surviving on. Believe it or not, without gold to back up the currency, tradition and expectation is also what’s behind the strength and trading of the US Dollar.
This same invisible quality is what sold you onto the Blue Pill idea. And what’s even more powerful about it is that it works in two ways: even if traditions are broken, the whole system could still survive solely on expectation.
So when it all falls apart, for sure this time, we deny it, try to bargain with it, curse at it, hide from it, and a few of us even die from it.
In the same way that us men have forgotten our instincts to not seek out Chaos (pursue women) but instead focus solely on expanding our own Order (which attracts them anyway), modern comfort has also led us to lose our place in society, forgetting that civilization is not one big umbrella Order protecting us, but that it is comprised of a multitude of tiny units of Order working together.
It’s a time when we should purposefully miss the forest and focus on our own tree. Otherwise, devastating effects will occur when a man who has forgotten his own sense of masculine Order suddenly finds himself within Chaos, “reeling unbound and unsupported” as the “traditions and expectations” he had for society have fallen through.
The high rates of male suicide are a prime example for this.
Too Much Order
“Order is the place where the behavior of the world matches our expectations and our desires; the place where all things turn out the way we want them to. But order is sometimes tyranny and stultification, as well, when the demand for certainty and uniformity and purity becomes too one-sided.”p. 36
In Alice in Wonderland, after getting through the rabbit hole, Alice drinks a bottle that ends up turning her very small. The same happens to the men I described above after taking the red pill, in which they eventually feel small and fall into depression.
But in Wonderland, a few moments later, Alice ate from a cake that then made her too large, resulting in her crying so much that when she returned to her normal size, she was able to swim in her own tears. This too happens to Red Pill men during the anger phase of the grief cycle, or better known in this context as The “Red Pill Rage”.
A common criticism of MGTOW is that for a group of men supposedly detached from women, they talk an awful lot about them, and it’s true. But there’s also talk about other men (Simps), and my favorite giveaway for someone still attached to the Order of the system: “degeneracy.”
MGTOW was supposed to be the last place I would expect to see lamentations of such a thing, but the space has also become a meeting ground for disenfranchised traditional conservatives to vent their rage.
It is supposed to be your own way, which I would expect to be very narrow. But how wide does your way become when it concerns the behavior of Thots, Simps, and degenerates who are apparently beneath you? And yet, you do not notice that you still depend and interact with them.
Your taxes are going to Tyrone’s baby mama. The Simp is delivering your Amazon package. The degenerate bags your groceries.
So no, you are not going your own way. You just want things to go your way.
The first group of men that could not overcome the depression/”valley of suicide” phase suffered from a lack of internal Order, making them small, along with the loss of external Order that was previously directing them from society above. The second group of men in the rage phase have some internal Order, making them large, but still suffering from the same loss of external Order, and they spend their time swimming in their own tears.
If society has descended into Chaos, then you are out of place attempting to restore Order to it. If instead society is still somewhat orderly, but not to the quality you desire, you are applying Order onto Order, which develops into tyranny.
Order can not be restored, it is simply maintained. Chaos can not be controlled, it is simply allowed to fall in line.
Observe how liberal cities like California and New York are losing growth, and people (especially from the former) are fleeing to places like Texas, which is ironic, since Texas is notorious for its Conservatism (aka, its Order). This is Chaos falling in line.
The Narrow Way
“The Taoist juxtaposition of yin and yang, for example, doesn’t simply portray chaos and order as the fundamental elements of Being — it also tells you how to act. The Way, the Taoist path of life, is represented by (or exists on) the border between the twin serpents. The Way is the path of proper Being. It’s the Way as that referred to by Christ in John 14:6: I am the way, and the truth and the life. The same idea is expressed in Matthew 7:14: Because strait is the gate, and narrow is the way, which leads unto life, and few there be that find it.”p. 43
The Red Pill is simply knowledge (truth), but MGTOW is the way and the life, with Monk Mode being the narrow way that very few find.
Consider how actual Monks live in temples and monasteries away from society. Even if they reside in society, like a Church priest, the way they live their lives is so narrow, it’s almost impossible for mainstream society to recognize them as regular participants or common citizens.
It is true what Aristotle has said:
“Man is by nature a social animal; an individual who is unsocial naturally and not accidentally is either beneath our notice or more than human. Society is something that precedes the individual. Anyone who either cannot lead the common life or is so self-sufficient as not to need to, and therefore does not partake of society, is either a beast or a god. ”
Monks are miniature Gods among us.
We in the mainstream over-consume on food, sex, and comfort, while the Monks have made a lifestyle of fasting, and abstinence. Some don’t even sleep on beds. Yet in our excess the depth of these alternatives slip our notice.
This is likely due to the Monastic habit of not imposing on society. They simply live the Narrow Way, and maintain their Order.
Heaven and Hell
“And even if we had defeated all the snakes that beset us from without, reptilian and human alike, we would still not have been safe. Nor are we now. We have seen the enemy, after all, and he is us. The snake inhabits each of our souls.”p. 46
We can shame the Simps, trash the Thots, fight Feminism, end the welfare state, heck, even take women’s rights away. All of this could indeed bring our society progress, but this would not be going our own way, but whatever way the wind is blowing in society while we try to direct its course.
This is also too wide of a way because when the Order we are mourning in society is finally restored, it’s possible the previous way you were going will dissolve. We would have just been a fair-weather MGTOW, or a MGTOW in protest.
Which of course, at its heart, is not necessarily a bad thing. I myself am not teaching men to be adverse to women, marriage, children, or society. If any of these things are in your heart, I truly want you to be able to obtain them. But if you are just a MGTOW in protest, I must ask you, do you want you to become new, to become better, or return to the same?
“Strengthen the individual. Start with yourself. Take care with yourself. Define who you are. Refine your personality. Choose your destination and articulate your Being…
You could help direct the world, on its careening trajectory, a bit more toward Heaven and a bit more away from Hell. Once having understood Hell, researched it, so to speak– particularly your own individual Hell— you could decide against going there or creating that. You could aim elsewhere. You could, in fact devote your life to this. That would give you a Meaning, with a capital M. That would justify your miserable existence.”pp. 63-64
The Red Pill was supposed to be a tool, an asset. But to become a MGTOW in protest, or any form of MRA, is to admit that the Red Pill has actually placed you into hell, which I will reiterate, is not a bad thing. You are attempting to return the world more towards your idea of Heaven, and I am probably on your side.
But I need you to seek further within yourself first; to go deeper into Hell. We are still only mildly among the flames, otherwise, we would not be comfortably barking about these other troubles. But if we were to truly commit to Monk Mode, to silence the world to see through to the very core of our suffering, I guarantee the men we would become would be far more silent, either from peace or determination, for all would wish for the way out of hell to be more narrow rather than wide.
“Take pain, for example–subjective pain. That’s something so real no argument can stand against it. Everyone acts as if their pain is real–ultimately, finally real. Pain matters, more than matter matters. It is for this reason, I believe that so many of the world’s traditions regards the suffering attendant upon existence as the irreducible truth of Being.”p.35
“Perhaps Heaven is something you must build, and immortality something you must earn.”p.54
If Heaven must be built, then Monk Mode is simply the demolition to clear for its foundation.
Food. Sex. Comfort. This is what the Monastic Monks sacrifice to get into Heaven. What will it be for you?
You could start a strict diet or fasting routine. Take a temporary vow of celibacy, and abstain from porn and orgasm for a while. You could cut out movies and television. Take cold showers every morning.
These can all work, as it will be very difficult for you to care about the latest feminist outrage when all you want is a simple cup of ice water during a dry fast, but still these are only on the surface.
To find out what you really need to be free, identify everything that you feel has been or can be taken from you, especially after the Red Pill, and then freely give it all away.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder, and abstinence makes the fires of your individual Hell much hotter.
Hear the screams of your heart, and endure them alone.
Persevere through the pain, and then pursue more pain.
Do not be satisfied with the first answer, or the fifth answer, or the fiftieth answer. Continue to pursue the truth until your life becomes a singular point. Until the way goes from wide to narrow.
“Chaos is also the formless potential from which the God of Genesis I called forth order using language at the beginning of time. It’s the same potential from which we, made in that Image, call forth the novel and ever-changing moments of our lives. And Chaos is freedom, dreadful freedom , too.”‘p. 36
Why do you figure that mediation, a practice meant for the mind, requires stillness from the body? It is because the body is orderly, so much so that most of its processes can function without our control. We can breathe unconsciously. But the mind, however, is constantly racing, making it the Chaos, the “formless potential.”
So when we take the few limbs of the body we are responsible for and keep them still, over time, the Chaos of the mind also settles, as it follows the stillness established by the body. It was the mind, however, that instructed the body to be still in the first place.
In that same respect, there was a Chaos within your life that led you to discovering the Red Pill and later choosing to go MGTOW in an effort to re-order your life.
So, that is why we must walk the narrow Way, to find the absolute Order within us that provides the focus, clarity, and stillness that will govern our entire lives.
The Blue Pill was everything outside of us. It never cared about what we felt on the inside at any point along the way. Don’t complain, just follow the trajectory: Get married, buy a house, have kids. It was the perfect formula.
It was orderly. Too orderly.
So it’s no surprise to me that Chaos, the feminine, would rise up to disturb that Order. It wanted “freedom, dreadful freedom.” This Chaos destroyed your external Order, leaving you with internal Chaos. But just as Order became Chaos, through MGTOW Monk Mode, your internal Chaos will manifest into internal Order.
The break-up, the divorce, losing custody, it all left you alone. But you should be thankful, because alone was all that you ever really needed. The Chaos taught you that you can no longer rely on the external, and forced you to seek from within.
So will you take the challenge? Will you tame the Chaos inside of you instead of seeking to curb the Chaos of others? Will you no longer rely on external Order and simply expand the Order within you?
Are you willing to live on the inside-out, seeking only your truest genuine expression, and not from the outside-in, wanting to be fulfilled by tradition and expectation?
“There is nothing outside of yourself that can ever enable you to get better, stronger, richer, quicker, or smarter. Everything is within. Everything exists. Seek nothing outside of yourself.” – Miyamoto MusashiThe Book of Five Rings
Meditate on these matters.
And I will not see you on the Far Side, but next week Sunday at 12PM, every week for the rest of this series.
Thank you for reading. – Monk Moon Base
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